And so the mistress calls
It is the night after my husband told me he couldn't live without me.
Picture this......it is 10.15pm and I am sitting in a gorgeous spa bath filled with bubbles with my husband and both of us are holding a glass of Baileys on ice. The bathroom is painted in soft candlelight, the flames flickering off the shiny tiles, and music is playing softly in the background.
My husband's mobile rings. He jumps out of the bath to answer it but misses the call. He places it in easy reach and gets back into the bath with me. The phone rings again.
This time my husband answers it. It is the mistress. She is distressed and states she has slashed her wrists.
I took the phone from my husband and proceeded to speak to the mistress. I asked her why she would not stay away and accept his decision. She was extremely distressed and rather irrational on the phone. I again asked her why she was doing this and would not leave us be.
She responded with something along the lines "Staying away would mean I have to be in my grave. And I am going to do just that. Good Luck."
She then terminated the call.
Picture this......it is 10.15pm and I am sitting in a gorgeous spa bath filled with bubbles with my husband and both of us are holding a glass of Baileys on ice. The bathroom is painted in soft candlelight, the flames flickering off the shiny tiles, and music is playing softly in the background.
My husband's mobile rings. He jumps out of the bath to answer it but misses the call. He places it in easy reach and gets back into the bath with me. The phone rings again.
This time my husband answers it. It is the mistress. She is distressed and states she has slashed her wrists.
I took the phone from my husband and proceeded to speak to the mistress. I asked her why she would not stay away and accept his decision. She was extremely distressed and rather irrational on the phone. I again asked her why she was doing this and would not leave us be.
She responded with something along the lines "Staying away would mean I have to be in my grave. And I am going to do just that. Good Luck."
She then terminated the call.
posted by kissmekate at 2:20 am
19 Comments:
Good for you in taking the phone and telling her once again to leave the two of you alone. She is not going to kill herself...please, that is sooooo just a "pay attention to me" thing. What she needs is a swift kick in the butt.
One would have to realize that if YOU could hurt from loving your husband and almost losing him, so could someone else. She loved him and is now devastated...right or wrong, I'm sure that's how she is feeling. Amazing how one can forgive the husband for his mistake but not the mistress... he's just as bad as she was or is... and we don't know what promises he made her do we? No one ever wins at this game, someone always ends up hurt... try and forgive her. You are human and you never know what mistakes you may make down the road... never say never! Hopefully she didn't go thru with her threat... but its very possible she did, many have and many do. Such a shame... your husband must be feeling very guilty about now... he's not worthy of either of you... and he is the one to blame, no one else... and look at him now.. enjoying a bubble bath... how pathetic. He should be the one slashing his wrists and alone, not her or even you. Women are soooo stupid!!!!
She really needs to read
"It's called a break up because it's broken , the smart girls breakup buddy by Greg Behrendt and amiira ruotola behrendt, the author of He's just not into you.
anonymous I understand she may be hurting but she needs to understand he has broken it off.
Anon you contradict yourself too. You ask me to forgive the mistress for her mistake but then state my husband does not deserve either of us. I take it in your eyes he doesn't deserve a second chance, but the mistress does.
And I have never said anything about not forgiving the mistress or hating her or wishing ill upon her or her children. I just wish she would do the same for me.
I DO have a heart and a conscience and was concerned for her welfare enough to call the police and arrange for a patrol to attend her residence and check on her welfare.
Only she now uses this against me! I can't win can I?
But then again it was never a competition to win.
How is your hubby doing with this?? What happened??
Stay tuned Leigh. I will continue the story next post.
That girl has obviously never been told the story about the boy who cries wolf....good for you shattered you again prove what a great person you really are. By phoning the police you show how kind of a person you are.
You know what is common in everyones stories, the wife is not out to get the Mistress, the Mistress is out to get the wife. Personally I think the wife should be the one hacking, stalking , posting under anom user name on posts, if missing her lover pains her how the hell did she think the pain she helped cause for the family feels? Sorry but she has no sympathy. I think Mistress is more insecure and devious than most realise.
It kills me how some anon will come and post on your blog in favor of you feeling something or caring one damn bit about what the mistress might be feeling or going through right now... seriously, why in the heck should YOU care? I know I wouldn't.
I can't wait to hear what else happened after that! Mistress sounds disturbed on many levels and I don't buy that whole suicide bit either...she's just is desparate for his attention and now it seems to be focused back on his wife where it should have been all along.
Can hubby change his cell number over? I think it would be a requirement if I were in your shoes.
Much later, when I first heard about the mistress slashing her wrists, I felt so much compassion, and I sort of started having the same view as first anonymous. I asked myself that why is it that the husband's are forgiven while the women - on either sides are left in pain.
But then one of my blogger friends made me realize that first of all, people pull that "I am going to kill myself" in a desperate effort to get attention. While it is true that some people do kill themselves, these are people who've had emotional problems to begin with - nothing to do with the actual breakup.
Second but not least, the mistress KNEW that what she was doing was risky. She was very willing to snatch shattered's husband away from her, and leave shattered in misery. But now that the tables have turned, and the mistress is the one who's now left in misery, are we now supposed to exercise a great deal of compassion??
As my blogger buddy pointed out: the world is much too nasty and too cruel for us to be extremely nice and to feel compassionate at our own expense.
I then thought - if my husband's mistress was left in that much pain, would I feel compassion? Not in a million years. What she did to me is unforgivable. I will never forgive her.
People DO kills themselves over broken hearts. Not that I'm justifying anything, but it does happen.
Was she thinking of you and you family while starting things up, (then keeping them up) with YOUR husband??? Was she worrying about how you were coping or if you wanted to kill yourself?? On top of that I doubt she would have any sympathy for you if the tables were turned. IF you forgive her, it should be for YOUR well being.
She acts like a teenager with this slit your wrist crap...if she wanted to kill herself, she would be DEAD. She called for attention and attention only. If she is truly a harm to herself that is grouds for being CHECKED IN to a PSYCH WARD!!!!!!
I agree that the numbers need to be changed IMMEDIATELY and unlisted at that...as well as all EMAIL accounts!!!
This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
The saddest thing is that S* is right. People do kill themselves over broken hearts.
Many people threaten suicide as a means of attention seeking. But there are people that do carry out their threats.
I guess what I am trying to say is that as much as I would like to say the Mistress' phone call was attention seeking, it also had to be treated as serious.
But she has had a habit of using emotional blackmail right though the last 4 months to haul him back in. I don't think she bargained on speaking to me this time!
damn! I just realized something. People who make fun of other people's misery will have that same misery happen to them! This is something that I strongly believe in!
So, I've deleted my making fun of the mistress's misery.
BUT, this doesn't mean that I agree with what this person did.
Next time, offer her a shot gun. This chick is pyscho, you need to call the caps on her.
Meg
For my whole tech career, I’ve been on call and so I have a knee jerk reaction to answering the phone at all hours in all types of conditions. I’ve even surprised friends by answering the phone with a business greeting.
Umm, so pardon me for noticing this, but even I would not jump to get the phone in that circumstance unless I was grabbing it to toss it out an open window.
I’m kind of concerned why he’d do that let alone answer it. Who was he expecting a call from, and what could be so important as to interrupt such an intimate moment?
Notifying the police of her suicide threat was the right thing to do. Her problems MUST not be yours, you were responsible in shifting it to a more appropriate entity. If this reoccurs, I’d ask for a temp protective order to stop this emotional blackmail on the grounds that a suicide threat presents a potential physical danger to you and your husband.
It may be inconvenient to change your phone numbers, but caller id on your land lines and ring tones on your cell phones can easily let you know it’s her & to not answer it.
He really must break off all communication. He owes you this.
See my comments at My Divorce Journey - today... for my views on cheaters.
My views are somewhat harsh on that topic, but I do advocate saving a marriage rather than tossing it, it’s just that this have both ways crap has to be stopped cold turkey – to prevent the turkey from making a fool of you. Seek help, but he’s got to cut it off now.
I wish you the best, I really hope things can be patched up. Good Luck.
You know, I am seriously impressed by the way you handled this situation.
It was very assertive and self-confident of you to take the phone and speak to her, and very responsible to still treat her behaviour as an emergency instead of just figuring she was not your problem.
It really reflects well on you. Here's to self-respecting, but still decent, behaviour...
Just remember that their are always two sides to every story. I've found myself in a predicament. The guy I was dating for a year (with a 3 month hiatus) always told me he was broken up with his ex girlfriend and that she in fact knew about me...I was over at the apartment, she broke into his emails and read our exchanges, etc. If you hear things from her perspective, I'm a psycho stalker who's spent a total of three hours with her "boyfriend", and she's glad to blast me all over cyberspace (poor fool will learn the truth).
I've got 100s of emails, texts, voicemails to prove we were together. I thought I was with a "free man". Now I'm made to be the bad one and he's going right along with it because he now wants to be with "ex" girlfriend again.
My point is, you NEVER know what Husband said to her and has been saying to her still. It's all about perspective, lies, and above all, selfishness on the part of these men who think they can toy with people's emotions instead of being upfront and honest.
Post a Comment
<< Home